/ Asked by Susan
I recently graduated college and am in the process of interviewing for jobs. The problem is, my parents keep "getting in the way" and try to give me advice about what to do. My dad is a top level exec at his company, so I know he has experience, but I'm very independent and I want to figure as much of this out on my own. Is my parent's advice even relevant anymore? Now that I am an adult, should I lean so heavily on their advice when I search for jobs? Should I stop being so stubborn and soak up any help that I can get from them?
Answered by Lori, Hiring Expert at Cigna, on Thursday, May 19, 2016
Congratulations on your recent graduation! This time in your life can be difficult for you as well as your parents. I'm sure they want to help out and make the transition to the "real world" as easy as possible. Sometimes that "help" can seem intrusive, especially when you an independent type. My recommendation is to take a deep breath and try to be patient with your parents. They are trying to provide you with insight into their years in the workforce to help you avoid possible pitfalls that they did, and maneuver a sometimes twisty road to employment. It doesn't mean you can't' speak up; in fact it would speak to your maturity if you let them know how much you appreciate their knowledge, but that you hope that they can respect that you want to forge your own path and will ask them for their advice when you need it. When it comes to the job search process, I'm sure your father has experience in being a hiring manager, so his advice is relevant in what he looks for in candidates. You can also conduct practice interviews with them, since they are so generous with their offers of help. In any case, be patient and appreciate their help because one day in the not so distant future, you may be doing the same thing to your children! Good luck!
Answered by Stephanie, Hiring Expert at AT&T Inc., on Tuesday, May 24, 2016
I have been where you are!  Parents want you to be great and they want you to learn from their mistakes.  They also want to help by leveraging their expertise and potentially their contacts.  This is how I would look at it...your parents are part of your network.  Your network is what will get you an introduction to a new job.  So utilize their contacts and expertise and build that network! Take the advice as it comes and see what works for you and what doesn't.  Being an adult doesn't just mean standing on your own, it also means knowing when and where to take advice and what to do with it. 

You've got this!  Best of luck in your job search and your future!
Answered by Courtney, Hiring Expert at ADP, on Thursday, June 2, 2016
Congratulations on graduation!  I immediately wanted to respond to this question as both a parent & an independent child of my parents (back in the day).  Your parents are wise and know you better than anyone else ever will.  Any advice they are giving you is purely out of love & support for your future.  It sounds like they have some pretty significant experience they can pull from to benefit your career search.  That said, times have changed and the landscape of finding a job right after school is very different today than it was when they were in your shoes.  It took me years to realize that I can make independent decisions even when gathering others input - I make better informed decisions now that I have embraced that mentality.  So I would recommend, as in every significant decision you make in your life, utilize your support system for advice along the way of making the best informed decision for yourself.  Good luck!
Answered by Kim, Hiring Expert at Archer Daniels Midland, on Tuesday, June 7, 2016
Good question! While I’m sure you’re parents are only trying to help, it’s sometimes hard to see when you’re trying to be independent and do things on your own.  It’s important to listen to what they have to say, but always remember, you aren’t required to take all that advice. Listen, then try to form your own personal opinion of things.  Also, remember that your parents can also be great tools and sometimes the best people to bounce your thoughts and opinions off of.  While it’s important to be your own person, don’t discount them just yet J
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